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 | hy do you want to come out? |
Before you come out to anyone else, you first need to make sure you are fully out to yourself internally. Then, you need to check and make sure your desires to come out to other people are for the right reasons. Anytime you feel the compulsion or need to come out to someone, you should first stop and ask yourself why.
The major reason gays and lesbians want to come out originates from their internal need to be loved, and accepted. It is a sign that you are not fully out internally, fully out to self. You seek, through coming out to someone else, the full love and acceptance you should already have with and within yourself, and from your God.
You should never come out to another person in the hopes that person will love and accept you. If you do not already have that self-love within, you may not be able to handle the results of coming out to someone else. If you want to come out to someone because of your need to be loved and accepted, you should instead channel that need, and find that love and acceptance from your God, from Jesus, and then from yourself for yourself.
 | It especially surprises me when someone goes to great lengths to tell me the person, to whom he wants to come out to, does not accept homosexuality, and is downright hostile to it, and yet he still wants to come out to the person anyway. This is because you still carry a degree of self-hatred and self-loathing, subconsciously desire to come out to a negative person in order to reinforce your negative inner self-image. You instead need to abandon that desire or need to come out, and concentrate on fully coming out internally to self, and gaining full self-love, and self-acceptance. |
Most reasons to come out are for all the wrong reasons. So, what are the right reasons?
| I believe there are rarely ever any real reasons to come out to anyone else. You have a right to your privacy; it is no one’s business what is your sexual orientation, and with whom you live. Therefore, the only reason to come out is for a real legitimate reason to come out; that legitimate reason has to agree with Christ’s Love, doing so will lead to the edification, growth, and profit of you and everyone else concerned. If your desire or need to come out does not agree with Love, then it is best you refrain or postpone doing so. |  |
Lastly, trust me, most of the time the people to whom you want to come out to already know you are gay or lesbian. They may not want to face up to it, and accept it, may not be ready yet to fully handle it, but they know, they know.
Only you can really know the reason to come out to someone. Take the time, lots of time to stop, pause, and ask yourself why, what is to be gained or achieved, what may be lost, what changes may result or need to occur if you do come out to someone. Make sure the answers are worth the questions.
 | to chat about coming out, and what you should know and do before deciding to come out externally to other people, family, and friends. |
 | et's move on to learn how to come out externally... |
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