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 s time has passed and as I have spent time assisting people in furthering their walk with Jesus it is my firm belief the majority of difficulties people experience regarding sexuality and sexual orientation really have nothing to do with these issues.
Rather, I believe they instead wrestle with self-love, self-image, self-acceptance, self-actualization and self-esteem. When these truer issues are addressed in Jesus Christ then the sexuality and sexual orientation will naturally and without effort fall into place and its proper holy expression.
Isn't it time you not only come out to yourself, see yourself and your sexuality in a positive light, in accordance with God's desire and best for you, but to come out openly?
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 Good and healthy boundaries set the stage for a proper relationship with God, with self and with other people. You learn how to set healthy limits within the guidelines of Love. Love does not desire the use or abuse of self or other people. You can set limits for yourself; limits on what you will do or not do, say or not say, be or not be. These limits all comply with the Law of Love. You choose to do that which edifies self, God and other people, and reject things that are not Love. You choose to say things to self and other people that are positive, of good report, which uplift and edify, and refuse words that bind and hurt, which wound and demean. You choose to be yourself in Christ, positive and affirming, and reject being someone other than who you really are, or someone who is less than you should or could be.
You have the right to your own body. You have the right to choose to use your body as the temple of the Holy Spirit. You have the right to express yourself through your body through Love, making healthy and wise decisions and choices. You have the right to reject your body's abuse and use, either by yourself or by other people. Love compels you to respect the rights of other people over their bodies, and not desire to use or abuse them. You have to right to refuse anything that leads to the abuse of your body.
You have the right to live your own life. You have the right to your own thoughts, opinions, values, culture, ethics, needs and desires, hopes and dreams, goals and objectives. You have the right to them when they comply with Love. You have the right to reject any thought or opinion that is not Love, and embrace those that are Love. You have the right to your own space, and to operate in it, within the boundaries of Love and in proper relationship with others. You have the right to your own thoughts and opinions, to embrace those that are positive and reject those that are negative. You have the right to make your own decisions and to act on them, when they comply with Love. You have the right to be all you can be in Jesus Christ. But, rights are just rights, abilities and opportunities. You have to act upon them, apply them, and walk in them.
You have the right to your sexual orientation; you have the right to walk in it, fully and completely within the boundary of Godly Love. To be yourself completely, to the fullest extent on the outside, means you have to come out to the fullest extent on the outside as a gay person. It isn't enough just to be out to yourself and to God, it isn't enough just to know you are gay, accept it, to even see it as good, positive, healthy and normal for you. You have to apply it, and that means applying it outside and not just inside.
 To know life to its fullest, you must integrate your sexuality and sexual orientation with the other aspects of your life. To know life to its fullest, to experience complete wholeness, to walk in yourself completely, means to come out publicly as gay. You owe it not only to yourself, but also to other people. Coming out is an act of Love, and act of Love towards yourself and other people. It is being open and honest with life, and receiving openness and honesty in return. It is wrong, it is not Love to believe you can live your life to its fullest from the sidelines, you have to get up and go to bat. Going to bat means you will hit both home runs and strike outs, but the point is this, you are fully in the game, having fun, enjoying and experiencing life to its fullest. Coming out means not just feeling pride within yourself about who you are in Christ, it means walking opening in that pride, being proud of who you are in Jesus before the whole world. Isn't that what you want? Of course it is.
But, having read this previous paragraph, for those of you who have not come out publicly, you may have feelings of fear. You may even be telling me I don't know what it's like for you, what coming out would do to you and your world. Yes, I do understand. I understand both your feelings and your fears. But, I also understand that whatever fears you have, whatever things may happen to you and your world in coming out publicly, I know the final end result will be better, healthier, and more positive than remaining where you are now. The opposite of Love is not hate, it is fear. Fear is an absence of Love. Love casts out fear. Love brings trust, hope, and faith. All these can be found in Jesus Christ.
Coming out puts to death and buries the final lingering effects of your old ways of thinking and living, the former false you. Coming out means embracing the liberating new you and expressing him or her. Coming out means coming out of the shadows and into the light, feeling and experiencing the Love and warmth of Jesus, the Son of God, your Sonshine. With any death there comes grief and a sense of loss. What's important to remember here is we are losing something that was never of value to begin with, a false sense of shame, a false identity, a false world, and gaining something of more lasting, real and of positive value.
Coming out publicly means change. Some of it may be subtle, but allot of it may be very obvious and radical. It may mean changes in friendships, hobbies and interests, work and living arrangements, changes in relationships. It may mean the loss of some things and people, but the gain of others. What changes, what things are lost, what is torn down, has to be replaced. The challenge is to apply your newly found sense of inner value, worth, and dignity, to your outer world. The challenge is to create an outer world just as beautiful as your new inner world. The challenge is to be creative, nurturing, bold and positive. It means to accept the loss of things you cannot change, and embrace the things you can. It means to apply Love to all your relationships, and to everything you are and do.
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See Also: My Autobiography Coming Out, Should I Come Out?, What If My Church Finds Out I Am Gay?, Books - Coming Out, Coming Out Links.
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